Self-Esteem for Women (Part 1)
Ok Ladies, Let's Address Some Things
With women's self-esteem, it has often been my experience that the more gorgeous a woman is on the outside, the more issues with esteem they seem to have on the inside. Now, this is not always evident at first and of course not always true, but you women out there especially in western cultures, are held to such outrageous standards that it's no wonder!The plastic surgery, the rail thin models, the almost impossible images you may, at least in some way, compare yourself to are simply unrealistic. And they can affect your self-esteem and personal growth. I know it's easy for me to give you platitudes like:
Beauty is only skin deep, or, there's someone out there for everyone, or, you're beautiful on the inside.... on and on. It's especially becoming more problematic for the adolescent girls out there. At that age range especially the desire to fit in is first and foremost a concern of yours. You need to have the "right hair", the "right cloths", the "right friends", the "right attitude" and so on. If for some reason you feel you don't have them?..... What happens Well, many of you give up on the "Barbie Doll" perfect look thing, your self-esteem takes another hit, and you rebel to the nth degree. You might do so by being goth or, in an effort to distinguish or get noticed in some way, simply go to extremes in a physical way. Piercings everywhere, black fingernail polish, black clothes, jet black, purple, pink or blue hair and so on. Everyone is trying so hard to get noticed with all the computer technology that way too many of you don't look inside or seriously work on yourself from the inside out. You would think Mandy Moore or Brittany Spears should be happy right? I mean they're beautiful, talented, rich, and basically have every material thing they could want but ... Do you think they're really happy? Emm... NO as their recent behavior would indicate they are basically crying out for help and it doeshave to do with self-esteem! It saddens me, and even more so when I think of how many young women look up to them.
Low Self-Esteem can Be Beaten!
So those things I mentioned above?? The things your Mom would tell you that you would just slough off because it's from mom or dad?Well they're all true! Beauty IS only skin deep and as the prior examples indicate; beauty, riches and fame do not guarantee happiness! It can almost work against it! If you have an eating disorder and think you're fat when you 90lbs and no one can tell you any different (and I have 2 such friends btw), you have fallen victim to a vicious cycle that you simply must break. You have identified yourself too much with your physical body and have lost sight of your true self which is infinite spirit. My girlfriends with these (potentially life-threatening) problems won't listen to me. They'll snap at me and basically tell me to get lost with all this mind, meditation, self-esteem and personal growth development mumbo-jumbo. Realize that though these issues stem from what we call a lack of self-worth or self esteem, most of you don't wear that on your sleeve! In fact, much like a man of short stature can take on overcompensating personality traits, so too can a woman. Often such women are highly motived or successful in one or more areas of their life, some turn to drugs and alcohol, while others will cut you down to size in a second if you cross them!
So What's The Answer?
Identifying your self with infinite spirit. Know that this life is but a dream and turn your efforts inward and analyze yourself! Go to a "professional therapist" if you prefer.I'm not a doctor so here's my disclaimer.... I'm not a doctor and my advice and/or suggestions are my own. There! Whether you believe it or not, if you don't "lick" these tendencies or traits, you'll have to face them in your next life(s) until you do. It's just the way the universe works. Spend years and thousands of dollars in therapy if you will. Do nothing and spend lifetimes working it out like the movie "Groundhog Day". Or... Spend mere minutes a day learning how to meditate correctly. Learn how to control your mind, thoughts, breath, and desires. Be the master of your domain or the "Queen of Your Castle". Take charge and responsibly for the situation you find yourself in and analyze yourself through the power of your own will, your concentration, and start making your dreams a reality! Proper meditation can take years if not lifetimes to master. That is no reason to loose hope or faith for there are more immediate solutions. Even your most lack-luster attempt to do so will help calm your nerves and bring some peace into your life so why not?? Please click the link below to continue to
Self-Esteem for Women Part 2
Sorry, page got too long! LOL
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